Essie Ruth

 This blog is about a lot of things, but you’ll find that it centres around my life with my family. This is who we are:

Essie: Mama, writer, maker.

Likes: Rain, folk music, paper, embroidery floss, coffee, and unicorns.

Dislikes: Neon hues, tailgaters, and eggplant.

Sara-Jane: Working Mummy, teacher, baker.

Likes: School fetes, cake, comics, reality television, and ice hockey.

Dislikes: Cookbooks without pictures, bananas in juice, and the telephone.

Arthur: Firstborn son. Apple of eye. Joy of heart.

Likes: Ballet, farts, stories, and spaghetti bolognese.

Dislikes: Loud noises, rule-breaking, and cabbage.


We often find that people have some questions about or family, so here are some FAQs that might help:

Q: Are you a same-sex couple, and is Arty your son?

A: Yes, and yes! SJ and I met as undergraduates at uni. We got together in 2004, and have been loving each other ever since. Arty completed our family in 2012.


Q: How did you guys have a kid?

A: Arty was conceived with the help of a known donor by home insemination. It was very low-tech, and low-intervention, which was what we wanted.


Q: Who is Arty’s mother?

A: We both are. We both made the conscious decision to welcome a baby into our lives, we both participated in the conception process. I carried him, and SJ supported me through the pregnancy. We were both there when he was born, we are both on his birth certificate, and we have both been parenting him for his whole life.


Q: Who is Arty’s father?

A: He doesn’t have one. He had a donor who helped us make him, and he understands the difference between a donor and a parent.

Q: What does Arty call you?

A: He calls me Mama, and SJ Mummy. He picked up the distinction very early and there’s been no confusion about it. He is very diligent about correcting people who get us mixed up.

Q: Are you guys married?

A: We haven’t yet achieved marriage equality in Australia, so no. We are hoping that will change one day. If you want to make a difference in bringing that change about, you can find out more at the Equality campaign.

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    November 18, 2017

    Hello! Live here in the US…..we do have marriage between same sex couples here…have several married friends. Love your videos…thank you for welcoming us into your family! Best wishes to you all….you make a wonderful family!