I think the most frustrating thing anyone can say to me in a discussion about marriage equality is “it’s only a matter of time”. Telling someone to wait patiently for one of their fundamental human rights is just… it’s incomprehensible to me.

I mean, how would you feel if I just took your drivers license away for no good reason, and didn’t tell you when you could have it back?


Me: Ok, I’m going to take this here drivers license of yours.

You: But, that’s mine. I need that to get around.

Me: Yeah, I know. I’ll give it back eventually. It’s only a matter of time.

You: But I need it now.

Me: God, don’t be so impatient. Nobody likes a pushy license-wanter.

You: This makes no sense. I’m a reasonable, capable, adult. I have a right to carry a license, and drive my own car.

Me: Look, I know, but there are still people in the community who feel a bit uncomfortable seeing people like you behind the wheel. We have to make allowances for that. Just give them time to come around. It’ll happen eventually.

You: I don’t honestly see how their personal beliefs have anything to do with my rights. Can I have my license, please?

Me: No, I’m afraid you’ll have to wait.

You: So you’re saying that even though I can turn on the news and see five stories a day about people totalling their cars, celebrities driving under the influence, and other acts of vehicular nonsense, you still won’t give me my license back? And you won’t even tell me how long I should expect to wait before I get it?

Me: Pretty much.

You: I. Call. Bullshit.

Me: *benign smile* Hang in there. I’m sure it won’t be long.


not married

At a wedding in 2007.

still not married

2015. Still not married.


I’ve got one life. I want to spend it married to her. Times a-fucking-wastin’.