i recently came across these words from the poet and philosopher kahlil gibran:

“your children are not your children.
they are the sons and daughters of life’s longing for itself.
they come through you but not from you,
and though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.

you may give them your love but not your thoughts,
for they have their own thoughts.
you may house their bodies but not their souls,
for their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow 
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams…”

i hope i can always have the courage to be that parent, and in doing so, grant my son the freedom to be the person he was born to be.